A subject less talked about...

The subject that I have chosen today fills me with the risk of getting exposed. As every living human being is most afraid of getting exposed so am I. Everybody to some extent gets fidgety when their feelings touch the ground of exposure. To be specific I am talking only about the over sensitive feelings…not just any feelings. Let me remind myself that some people are brave enough for not guarding their feelings and prove to be a great warrior in the battlefield called Life. But I am no great warrior; I am but a plain and fearful being that is afraid of getting exposed. At a slightest indication of getting exposed I hide myself in a cocoon, rarely then I trouble myself of coming out…the people who have known me might think otherwise though…I am sure you must be thinking of what the subject might be.

Let me introduce the subject to you, it is…

But wait the fear of getting exposed is not letting me come up with the subject. The feeling that I am experiencing right now is of the same kind when I happened to propose someone. Before I touch base on the subject let me narrate this incident to you. Don’t worry I will not go into the details… so the incident goes like this, I happen to call this guy whom I thought to be just perfect for me (that’s the reason you propose I guess), and vomited out all my feelings to him and felt that have committed an act of bravery…I was all happy to be relieved of the burden, only to find out that it was one sided! Heartbreak it was. The minute I came to know that it was all one sided all the feelings for him just got evaporated in the air (guess it was not true love or my ego…I still can’t decide). It was a relief that I was out of it…but the crime was committed, I was exposed in front of a person who was not even worth. Don’t misunderstand me I don’t have any regrets, I still find myself to be brave enough to have done it. It is of course was a brave act for a girl like me as until then I detested girls who proposed! After my act I find them courageous enough. It was a mixed feeling that I experienced, I felt independent (of him and of the burden) but with that I foster a kind of hatred for myself for having getting exposed. I think these incidents only happen to make you more mature. Same feeling capture my mind when I am about to introduce the subject…

On second thoughts maybe some other time!

An Era of Checklists

Rejecting or Getting rejected! Don’t blame the girl or the boy for your rejection. It’s the checklist that is causing it all. Yes the same kind of checklist that you yourself have. I am sure you have also made one, we all possess one! A checklist that states our requirements!

Whenever we meet a boy who is good enough to catch our attention, at that very moment we start with our analysis. We start comparing our checklist with him. One point missing and he is a straight reject! And if the guy is lucky enough to overcome the barrier, there comes the checklist of the girl’s friends…and he is a reject again! Same goes with the boys, a girl goes into the eject mode if she is missing on any point…Of course there are some rules to the game. Let us check out the checklist of both the genders. (The points on the checklist are strictly to be taken in the counting order…)

A Girl’s checklist

1.     He should be rich.

2.     He should be handsome.

3.     He should be intelligent.

4.     He should be very loving and caring.

5.     He should know how to cook.

6.     And blah blah blah…

The list can go on and on…but if it matches the above criteria he is good enough to be a date…One important thing that I forget to put is, all the points on the checklist can be overlooked if he is very rich ;) (Don’t tell anyone!)

A boy’s Checklist:

1.     She should be very beautiful and to an extent that all my friends should get jealous of me.

2.     She should be fun to be with…

3.     She should mind her own business, and don’t be too much of a poking.

4.     She should be smart.

5.     She should be earning.

6.     She should not be demanding and blah blah blah…

And the list is never ending…but if the girl matches these requirements she is good enough to start off with…And in this case too all the points can be overlooked if the girl is extremely beautiful… :)

Lame that is! do you know who is taking advantage of our checklists, the so called dating/matrimonial websites…!

The fact of the matter is not the checklist but our never ending want to get the perfect kind…when the word perfect in itself is a big farce. And you know what we are so obsessed with that checklist that we tend to ignore the person whom we are meant to be with…

Do away with your checklists today and then look around that person is just around the corner…

Happy Valentine’s Week