Marriage - Right age or right match?

Two decades and seven years have passed, quite a lot of time to think of it. Everybody says it is time to tie a knot and some even say that I am past the perfect age of getting married. Really! I want to ask what actually is the perfect age to get …….? I am sure everybody would have a different number in their mind. Let me share with you my experience, the reasons I have listened to. The marriage drama at my home started at the age of 21.Thankfully my parents were not involved then, they knew that it was indeed a tender age to be married. I still remember how in one of the marriage functions, one of our loud relatives pointed me out and told my parents about the prospective party. I just stood dumbstruck over there…really didn’t know how to react back then! Well my parents handled the situation wisely. Now to think of it if I would have got married at that time, things would
 have been a lot different…firstly I would not be writing this, secondly happiness and freedom would have been a question mark and what not…Mind you the last statement about happiness and freedom is not a statement against marriage, it was about the after effects! ;) I am not at all against marriage, rather marriage makes me very hopeful and worried about my soul mate because he would have to bear with me not matter what!

Coming back to the right age for marriage…I think the right age for marriage will always be a controversial, at least in the Indian context. Some say that the right age for girls to get married is right after their graduation when they are 20-21 years old…I really don’t understand what makes them think that way. A girl who hardly knows the worldly ways is expected to take care of a family and a full grown immature (sometimes). And when a girl turns 25, people bombard her and her parents with all stupid questions they can think of, for instance- ‘has she chosen someone already’ or ‘r u not searching a groom for her’ or ‘have you registered on a matrimonial site?’ and what not. I personally find this matrimonial business a little funny, I mean c’mon! My mother too goes crazy sometimes she makes search a prospective groom on a matrimonial site…and I always find it funny, making fun of the profiles with my siblings and it becomes epic when my mother too joins in the fun…

And when you are past 25 forget about relatives your friends too join the brigade with them…to be precise all the married friends. Their simple question like ‘when are you getting married’ with a special stress on you, leaves you speechless. I swear you don’t want to talk to them again…just because they are married doesn’t mean that was the right age to get married. Now if I continue writing I may write something offensive... so here I put my thoughts on hold.

At last I want to say it is not the right age but the right person that matters!